What is your biggest fear in life?

I’m terrified of the dark.

I’ve literally pulled hamstring muscles running up stairs or into houses just so that I can avoid it. Terrified.

Other things I’m scared of are spiders, scorpions, heights, scary movies and the dark. I put the dark
in there twice just to make sure you understand exactly how afraid of the dark I am. I’m twice as afraid of the dark as I am anything else.

But once my kids were born I made a commitment to not pass along my (irrational) fears to them.

With my kids I’ve gone on roller coasters (while dying inside), gone on Ferris wheels (while dying inside), held a live tarantula (while dying inside), and held a live scorpion (while dying inside).

For me, my kids have been instrumental to me overcoming my fears. I want them to be better than me. Hands down. Each generation wishes for the next to be better. It is an evolutional certainty.

Most of these fears are not something I have to conquer on a regular basis. I don’t have to ride a roller coaster to work or hold my kids pet scorpion while he’s in his swimming lesson.

But there is another, maybe deeper, fear that I have to conquer every single day.

Rejection.

I think it’s fair to say that my deep seeded fear of being rejected or letting people down MIGHT have to do with unresolved paternal issues, but each day I’m focused on doing the right thing by people.

I don’t always succeed.

But I always try.

Without that fear, I don’t think my work would be as high quality as I believe it is. So fear has a strength to it.

Last year I ran a race called Mud Hero. It’s a 5K obstacle race through mud and water and it’s just awful. I ran it with a group of friends.

At one point in the race, the obstacle is to go down a huge slide into a pit of dark muddy water. I’m afraid of drowning. And heights. And the dark. It was a perfect storm.

That’s me. In the green shirt. Not going down the slide. 

I sat there for several minutes, crippled with fear.

And then I did it.

It was one of the proudest moments of my life.

Overcoming my fear of rejection will take the rest of my life, I’m sure. But what can you do today to overcome at least some of your fears.